Another 5 Characteristics Of A Great Romantic Relationship

Romantic relationships are glorious and difficult. They put you in a position where you are forced to get to know yourself in a way that could never happen by yourself.

One of the significant voices on the internet regarding good relating and communicating is Harville Hendrix.

Although I’m not affiliated at all with his products I do appreciate his work and views. So I’ve based these 5 characteristics of a fantastic relationship and the previous 5 here on Hendrix’s suggestions.

I have inserted my own personal twist on these characteristics as I understand them.

I base much of my relationship and communication advice on the management and use of our life force energy. It’s our energy that is connected to the Infinite and our Divine Creator. It’s how we receive information through our intuition.

So, let’s get into these next 5 traits of a great romantic relationship;

#1B – Embrace Your Dark Side – Especially, in a Romantic Relationship

To have a great romantic relationship, you must acknowledge that you have negative energy in your consciousness. That you have a ‘shadow’ or ‘dark side’.

This is important because as you accept responsibility for your dark side, you become much LESS likely to project the negativity onto your partner.

This, of course, creates a less aggressive atmosphere between the two of you.

To understand your darkness you must first admit that it’s there. When thoughts come up that are negative in nature, the first thing to do is just notice them.

Then acknowledge them. It’s the key to understanding.

Now, you don’t have to share all your negative feelings with those around you or even your romantic partner, unless you want to.

You just need to be aware of when the darkness looms within you and be responsible enough to deal with it internally, before it darkens someone else’s day.

If the other person hasn’t done anything wrong, then it’s important not to project onto them.

If they’ve done something you don’t like, but know they didn’t mean any harm, it may be wise just to state a boundary. Say your preference calmly and without emotion.

This allows the other person to preserve their dignity while at the same time you have acknowledged where you are internally.

All it takes is that you state what you prefer or need without negative energy.

Once you feel you know your partner well enough, you can let them into some of the darkness in your consciousness. Only if you trust them, though.

If you’re feeling cautious don’t push yourself. Your intuition is telling you something. It could be that they are not that trustworthy.

It could also be true that you’re not ready to be that honest. Once you speak the truth about your darkness to someone, it’s out there. Sometimes that can be a very uncomfortable, if not a completely threatening experience.

Keep in mind that your darkness can be used against you when the wrong kind of person knows about it.

A manipulative or controlling person can stir up that negativity and make your life more difficult because of it.

Now if this happens to you, you can use it to discipline yourself and guard against outside negativity.

You can transform your darkness by allowing it to evaporate.

How do you do this?

Stop caring. Become indifferent. Watch the energy of fear or aggression or any type of negativity dissipate.

It’s only the ego that wants to defend itself. Your ego is not that important and neither is theirs.

A higher, lighter spirit concerns itself with higher matters.

Manipulation and petty control maneuvers are not part of the light.

#2B – Learn To Satisfy Your Own Needs

Your partner can’t be expected to care for all of your needs every time they surface.

Two people are going to be in different head spaces much of the time. Each experiences the world differently and are consequently in different energetic and thought space within their own energy field. Sometimes it takes a little while to come back into ‘sync’.

In the meantime, it’s important to give yourself what you need if your partner can not.

Go for a walk, meditate, read some scripture, talk to a friend or just re-frame the type of thoughts you have in your head.

Essentially, you are accepting your being in this moment — without grasping and yearning.

This is something all adults really should learn and a romantic relationship is a great place to practice this skill.

Often times, couple devolve into power plays when trying to get what they need from the other person.

Practicing self sufficiency is definite sign of maturity.

#3B. Search For The Strength You Need From Within

One reason you were attracted to your partner is that more than likely they had strengths and abilities you don’t.

Within a romantic relationship a person can be given the illusion of being whole.

A mature spirit concedes that the only way to real strength, growth and wholeness in through management of your own inner environment.

A warrior spirit is always in a battle with the Self. Being in the moment and listening to the Divine Creator through our intuition is not always easy.

Yet, this is the way to happiness and wholeness within oneself and without.

#4B – Cultivate The Desire To Add To Life

It’s a powerful thing to decide to be someone who brings positive energy everywhere they go.

Instead of being a ‘Debbie Downer’.

When you make this decision, you quickly become aware of how much negativity you have in your energy field and in your thought process.

Then, you want to clean that up!

As a Divine human being, you have the ability to love deeply and to experience unity with the world around you. In a romantic relationship, you have the opportunity to rediscover this innate experience.

This can be felt with a relationship you have with the Divine Creator, God or Yaweh.

This is not religious. This is spiritual. Meditators and prayers around the world feel this unity with their connection to a Higher Power.

If you haven’t already, I would highly recommend exploring a relationship with The Creator of All There Is.

It can only help with ALL of your relationships. Especially, your romantic relationship.

This connection with a Higher Power is personal. You don’t have to discuss it with anyone unless you want to.

Ultimately though, that spiritual connection is for YOU which makes all your Earthly relationships better.

#5B – Accept The Difficulties And Joys of Being In A Romantic Relationship

In a loving and responsible romantic relationship, you realize you have to BE the right kind of partner. You don’t have to be perfect. Neither do they.

However, as you gain a more realistic view of romantic relationships, you realize that a good requires discipline and commitment to face yourself first and then stand firm in love and tenderness with your partner.

It’s not easy, but it’s completely worth it. It’s also what dating is for. So that you can learn who you are within a romantic relationship and who you want to be with.

Once you make the commitment to marriage though, it’s a whole ‘nother ball game.

Either way, when you manage your inner environment first, you always win in the game of romance.