Any man who has studied how to please a woman knows that foreplay is critical to great sex which is why a great erotic massage is one of the most important experiences you can offer her.
What you do to her and how she gets turned on by it will directly affect how much she enjoys the sex you’re about to have AND how powerful her orgasm is.
One of the best ways to get her really turned on is an erotic massage.
When massage is done right it’s amazing! It’s slow and sensual and is fantastic foreplay for women.
You really don’t want to rush through a massage, so just take your time. This build up allows her to get extremely turned on until she’s nashing to get at you and take it to the next level.
As a certified massage therapist for 25+ years I can say confidently that an erotic massage or any type of massage is not as easy to give as it may seem.
Below are some simple steps to take to ensure you are giving your lady a fantastic erotic massage that will lead you to a great time in the bedroom.
Preparation:
- Your hands should be soft and your nails should be trimmed and filed (to make sure there are no rough edges). Moisturize your hands beforehand. If your hands feel rough or there are scratchy calluses on your palms, she will feel that on the soft parts of her body.
- Use towels to protect the bed sheets from getting oil stains. It’s a pain to try to get oil drops out of sheets. Where as towels tend to wash up cleaner with some spot remover.
- Pick a great massage oil. Having a good massage oil is vital. She’ll feel the difference. Keeping her well oiled up so that your hands slide easily over her body is absolutely critical to a successful erotic massage. There are water based oils, edible oils and lotions. I’ve tried all of them and still prefer a good quality, viscous type vegetable oil like virgin olive oil or avocado oil, which is probably my favorite.
- Put the oil in a plastic container or cup. This is something that only a massage therapist will tell you. Find a small to medium sized plastic container with flip top or it could have a pump top. These containers can be found in the dollar for less cents. If you don’t want to do that then I would recommend a thick plastic cup. A disposable one will do. However, make sure the water is not too hot when you place it in the bowl. You don’t want to use glass as it’s very slippery when your hands are oily. Never use a metal container for oil that will be applied to a person.
- Heating the massage oil. Let the container of oil sit in a bowl of warm water next to the bed. If this is impractical for any reason, then I would suggest NOT pouring the oil directly on her back. It looks cool in movies, but squirting oil on your palms first, then rubbing them together briskly for several seconds warms up the oil nicely.
- Set the mood. Dim the lights, or better yet, turn them off completely and light enough candles so that you can see each other. If possible, set the temperature in the room a little warmer than usual so that she won’t be cold when she is lying there naked at first. She’ll be heating up soon anyway. You could burn some incense, a scented candle, or add drops of essential oil to a tissue and place it near her face under a towel. Put on some light and quiet music in the background.
- Think of the details. Put something to drink by the bedside table. Make sure the sheets are soft and clean. Turn your cell phones off. Make sure the bedroom is clean and uncluttered. Have everything you need on the bedside table within arms reach.
Next…
The Technique:
- First off, she should be naked and so you should you. It’s erotic after all. There will be a lot of skin to skin contact as the massage goes on. She should be facing down to begin with. Cover her with a sheet or towel, just like in a real massage situation. Believe it or not, this little gesture will also help to build up her desire. Remember, it’s all about the slow build up.
- Put some massage oil in your hands and rub them together to make sure it’s warm enough. Don’t over do the oil in your hands or it gets sloppy fast. Add a reasonable amount to your palm, rub together and spread on her. Repeat. You want a fairly generous amount on her body. So that your hands slide easily over her .
- Start on the mid to lower back and glide up to her shoulders, neck and arms. Be careful with the amount of pressure you use. Don’t use too much. This isn’t a deep tissue sports massage. You want enough pressure so that her body responds to it and your efforts have an impact. You can just ask if the pressure is okay. Say something like, “Is this amount of pressure okay?” “Do you want me to go harder or softer?” Use your whole hand when massaging her. Go slowly and rhythmically over her neck, shoulders and up and down her arms. Don’t break contact and don’t go too fast.
- Slowly lower the sheet down to just above her butt — or a bit more. Begin to make your strokes longer and deeper, don’t be afraid to allow other parts of your body to make contact with hers as you work. Just as long as she feels she is still the one you’re focusing on. Give her a taste of that manly sensation and then move on. Apart from your hands massaging, your skin should be brushing against her suggestively, not aggressively.
- Before moving any lower, take some time with some erogenous zones. Rub the neck, ears, and back. Kiss and lick your way around her body sensually. Run your hands along the sides of her breasts as you kiss and lick the back and side of her neck. Then slowly make your way down.
- Now you’re ready to continue to lower that sheet all the way down. In fact, toss it off altogether. Make sure you still have plenty of oil on your hands and on her body. Begin to work your hands down lower and lower, slowly kneading her butt and slipping your fingers down ever so close to her lady part, but not quite there. This is teasing at it’s finest and it will drive her crazy. Slowly open her legs enough so that you can have access to massage her inner thighs. You can slowly sweep your hands up her thighs, just slightly making contact with her lady lips each time, but not too much. That kind of teasing will get her 100 times hotter than going straight for it.
- Now it’s time for the other side. Have her flip over, which will give you access to her stomach and breasts. Get some more oil heated up on your hands and begin around her tummy and rib cage and move up to her shoulders, missing her breasts on the way up. Then massage the part of her chest above her breasts. Make her wait a bit for it. Then make your way down to massage her breasts and nipples. Linger there for a little while and then move on.
- Don’t forget that you can massage with your mouth as well as your hands. Now that you have her facing up you can kiss her all over and lick her from her nipples all the way down to her inner thighs. Avoid the vulva though, you’re still building up that sexual tension. Repeat the same teasing thigh massage you did when she was facing down. This time though, allow your hand to graze over her lady parts — including the clit — each time you massage upward.
- This last trick will definitely lead to something more. Begin slowly exploring her opening. her vulva lips and clitoris with each stroke. Now it’s your choice where to take it next, but just because the massage is over doesn’t mean you should change up the vibe or the pace. Keep it slow and sensual until she shows you she wants otherwise.
In a nutshell, that is the way to give a lady a fantastic erotic massage that will give you both a lot of pleasure at the end.
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