LOVE VS RESPECT - Which Is More Important & Why?

Gentlemen… in this short audio I talk a little bit about LOVE vs RESPECT and which one is more important and why…

Welcome to another edition of the Bridges Bulletin. Let’s get started.

Hello everyone, I am Dyann Bridges, and today I’m going to be discussing love and respect, and why it’s so much more important to be respected than loved.

Of course, it’s great to have both. It’s preferable to have both.

But it’s very possible to be loved without being respected.

When that happens, a lot of damage can be done, and we see it everywhere, especially within families.

Very often, family members love each other very much, very deeply, but they don’t treat each other with a lot of respect.

And that’s where the danger comes in. Getting close to someone, loving them, caring for them, caring about them, but not respecting them.

That’s a big problem.

Now you’ve left yourself wide open to a lot of damage, and for doing damage in return.

If you’re loved but not respected then people aren’t necessarily going to treat you well.

If you love others, but don’t respect them, then you can end up doing a lot of damage to them too. At the very least, you could inconvenience them on a regular basis.

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For example, being late all the time, or just forgetting things that they’ve asked you to do and you agreed to do it. Then just didn’t bother following through.

It’s because you don’t respect them, and don’t care if you let them down.

But you do love them.

They may be a family member who’s dear to you, and that you genuinely love them.

However, the person down the block, who you don’t care that much about, but have respect for, you will follow through for.

If you say you’re going to do something for them, then you will, because you know that they’re going to be disappointed in you and perhaps think less of you and you don’t want that.

They’re probably going to call you out on it, press back, and hold you accountable for not meeting the standards that you had agreed to live up to.

So, this is why it’s so much more important to be respected than loved.

And I’ll give you a quick example in my own life.

I knew my mother loved me, and she’s a wonderful, kind woman who has now passed on. In my 20s, for a short period of time, I lived in the same city that she and my brother were living in. My brother still lived with her. He’s a number of years younger than me.

I’d be talking to her on the phone and she would invite me over for dinner because they were making the meal. They were going to eat soon.

It was just a ten minute drive away from me. When I got there, they were both already halfway through the meal, which I never really understood.