Here are a few specific techniques for your partner massages. You can perform these safely on your partner at home, so that both of you can have a great, sensory experience.
So get ready by slowing down, lighting candles, putting the phones away and let your hands say what words sometimes can’t by being very, very in the NOW…
1. Start with a Grounding Touch
Have one partner lie face down. The giver should:
- Place both hands on the back and gently lean in
- Then begin to slowly rock the person
- Then take your hands and place them firmly but gently on other parts of their back and legs to press and rock your partner
This helps the receiver relax and signals that they can let go of tension, as well as, help you both get you connected.
This is a good way to begin a partner massage so both of you have a chance to ‘acclimatize’ to the sensual massage experience.
2. Focus on Main Areas Using Simple Techniques
You don’t need professional training—just attention and intention.
Shoulders & Neck
- Put your hand into a fist and drag it up and down the neck and top of the shoulders. Make sure you are pressing into the flesh of the muscle and not on the spine
- Gently squeeze the tops of the shoulders between palms and base of the fingers
- Avoid pressing directly on the spine.
Back
- Place your hand on their back and moving from lower back up along one side to the shoulder using long gliding strokes with your palms. The fingers should be touching and pointing in the direction you moving your hand. Keep the wrist at no more than a 45 degree angle.
- Apply firmer pressure with the heel of your hand by leaning more of your body weight in to the stroke if your partner prefers deeper touch.
- Move slowly— take your time and remember not to break the touch. It’s very distracting to the receiver when the hands are taken off the body — even for a few seconds.
Hands & Arms
- Press and rub the palms of the hands using circular motions
- Gently pull on each finger by grabbing the digit at the base and dragging your fingers up to the end
- Gently anchoring the receiver’s wrist, take you other hand and glide it up from wrist to shoulder. NEVER stroke from shoulder to wrist. ALWAYS stroke toward the heart.
Feet (Optional but Powerful)
- Apply steady thumb pressure to the arch and other areas of the sole of the foot
- Gently rotate the ankle and flex and extend the foot
- Drag your knuckles in a fist, up and down in slow strokes from heel to toes.
It’s a good idea to check in and ask, “Is this pressure okay?” Communication keeps your partner massage pleasurable rather than painful.
3. Add Intimacy (No Pressure)
For your partner massages, the goal is ultimately sensuality and intimacy without it necessarily becoming sexual.
Let the experience of your partner massages evolve naturally.
Try focusing on:
- Eye contact when possible
- Whispered affirmations
- Expressing gratitude
This type of experience, helps to build emotional closeness, releases oxytocin, and reduces stress hormones while you are giving your partner massages.
This all helps to increase your sense of connection.
This can (and should) be done on Valentine’s Day, but primarily this sensual experience is the focus on presence.
Sometimes (or many times) we only pay half attention to the people we are closest to. Bringing your full attention to the moment will ultimately make your relationship stronger and closer.
Discover MORE Sensual info on giving Massages (Especially for Valentine’s Day) HERE!
Thanks for reading/listening and stay sensual. Dyann xoxox
