Who Finds Themselves in Situationships And How To Get Out Of It

Situationships are defined as a relationship that lacks clear boundaries, labels, responsibility, honesty and commitment.

It’s basically somewhere between casual dating and a fully committed relationship.

It’s where emotions are involved, but exclusivity or long-term goals are not clearly defined or even thought about.

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So, Who Tends To Find Themselves in Situationships?

Young Adults and Millennials (In General)

Younger generations, particularly those in their 20s and early 30s, are the most likely to find themselves in situationships. Although, there are others in middle years (and beyond) who find themselves in these types of relationships as well. However, it’s the younger generations which often get caught up in situationships. They tend to prioritize fields of interest such as; personal growth, career ambitions, or travel over romance. Casual dating is common among this group. For many, navigating their own desires and life goals is a large enough challenge.
Couples in the Middle of Moving On

Many people who are recovering from a breakup or a past relationship find themselves slipping into situationships. They might still crave intimacy or the companionship they had with previous romances. So, they can’t quite let go. The lack of defined boundaries in these situationships, offers the people involved an undefined space where they can give and receive without the responsibility of a commitment.
Those Who Want To Avoid Vulnerability

For some, a situationship is a way to avoid the emotional risks that come with a committed relationship. People who fear rejection, being vulnerability, or being hurt end up in situationships because it keeps boundaries loosey-goosey. Good boundaries facilitate good relationships. However, to provide clear boundaries, an individual must have the strength and self understanding to be consistent in stating those boundaries regularly without fear. This can be a tall order for those who are too timid or who have sustained trauma. For this group, it can feel safer to be in a situationship, but the downside is self-avoid or even self-sabotage.

How Does Someone Get Out Of Situationships? (With Grace)

Situationships are often a product of modern dating dynamics.

Sadly, it’s a very unnatural way to have a romance. It’s also a statement on how weak many individuals have become.

People crave intimacy yet, don’t have the wherewithal to set specific and consistent boundaries with another person.

This is mostly due to fear. Fear itself is not necessarily the problem. It’s the lack of clear thought and forthrightness that keeps things willy-nilly. It takes self responsibility and good self-management to get close to another person.

In the long run, situationships are a panacea.

They help a person successfully avoid themselves. That’s a detriment to everyone involved especially the individual themselves.

So, to successfully and gracefully end a situationship, one just needs to state calmly and clearly that they would like to define this as a real committed romance — to the world — or leave it altogether. Easier said than done… yes.

The reaction you get, may not be what you expected. If you can stay present and calm in the moment is really the best way to handle any situation.

Even — and especially — if it’s a situationship.