**I first put up this article in about 2016 or so. I took it down and have left in draft for several years. The sad fact is… not much has changed since. This article is from a Tumblr site called “The Invisible Men”. It looks like it hasn’t be updated in at least 6 years.
Although this Tumblr page seems to have been started well over a decade ago. Feel free to visit The Invisible Men Tumblr page if you’d like.. but do so at your own risk. It’s unpleasant to say the least.**
I recently read an article about men in the UK who frequent prostitutes. I wanted to share part of the article hear and give you some of my thoughts on it.
Even though the study is based in England, the results seem universal. I’ve often wondered about why men come to sexual service providers. This study makes some interesting points.
“Patrons and Punters” means this… Anyone (usually a man) who is willing to pay for any type of sexual service are called “patrons” who live in the US.
“Punters” are men in the UK who are customers of any sexual service. Hence the study was about men in the US and UK who use the services of sex workers.
Here is the article from The New Statesman:
“The demographics of the self-selecting participants – who replied to advertisements for the study – were nearly equally split between three age groups: 18-to-29-year-olds, 30-to-40-year-olds, and 41-to-70-year-olds. Almost half the participants were white, 20 per cent were Asian, 11 per cent were black, and the rest were of other ethnicities. Most were in a relationship; the report did not distinguish between short-term and long-term relationships, but this finding nonetheless supports other research showing that a man seldom decides to buy sex just because he lacks a partner.”
Although this study was of men who pay for sex with prostitutes, I’ve found that this demographic is very close to that of the clients that frequent my sensual massage service.
It’s curious that there seems to be such a desire and deep need in men to connect sexually with different women. And I do mean connect… Even if the “connection” is under false pretenses. Meaning, she’s just doing her job.
For anyone wondering whether or not sex work is real work… it IS.
The Invisible Men is a tumblr blog that allows anonymous reviews about experiences punters have had with their “punts” (prostitutes). Yuk.
Hence the terms patrons and punters.
I will warn you… these are graphic and detailed reviews and most of the encounters are quite unpleasant for both parties.
Sex work can be extremely difficult work and for many it’s no way to make a living. For some though, it can be rewarding in many ways beyond the financial.
At one time, centuries ago, it was a sacred experience to be with a prostitute who was trained to take care of a man’s sexual needs. Any honor in the world’s oldest profession has long since disappeared.
Read some of The Invisible Man reviews and you’ll soon realize that women are the commodity that men seek, have always sought and will continue to seek. Even if we don’t want you. Even if we find you disgusting. As long as we pretend to enjoy you… you’re good.
I’ve gotta ask – What the hell does that say about you guys? As men? In regards to your attitude toward women?
And what the hell does it say about the state of a woman’s life condition that she feels that sex work without honor, respect or much safety is the kind of work she must do?
What A Mess…
I understand you guys want what you want when you want it. Women will tolerate that to an extent if we feel we are being honored and taken care of in return.
If you guys would develop some real interpersonal skills on how to relate to women, you would be a lot happier with the response you get from us.
Then you wouldn’t need to be part of the “patrons and punters” club.
It’s actually not that difficult to score with women and most of it stems from genuine respect for the female gender.
I promise you, if you drop the judgements and resentments of women and develop real respect for us we will respond favorably.
Thank you for reading.
Have a sensual day, Dyann xoxo
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