Earlier in 2022, I submitted some relationship content to UpJourney.com.
I was quite excited about their choosing my articles as it’s good exposure for the site and for the information The Body House is known for.
HERE ARE THE UPJOURNEY.COM ARTICLES
From June 29, 2022 on UpJourney.com
How To Deal With People Who Don’t Like You
Remember, mature adults will still offer respect to others even though they may not like the person
One of the first things you can do is look at your own behavior when dealing with people who don’t like you.
- Is there a reason why some people don’t like you?
- Do you have a habit of, say, interrupting people?
- Are you late or unprepared often?
- Do you ask invasive or inappropriate questions a lot?
These types of behaviors will put people off.
If you can honestly say you don’t do anything that gives others a reason to dislike you, then think of it as an opportunity to like yourself more. Sometimes life puts obstacles like this in our way to force us to go deeper into who we are.
So, maybe it’s them, not you. If others are displaying their dislike for you with a variety of disrespectful behavior, like condescension or ignoring, they are the ones demonstrating reason not to be liked.
Remember, too, that mature adults will still offer respect to others even though they may not like the person.
These are things to consider if people demonstrate their dislike for you.
From UponJourney.com
Do Emotionally Unavailable Men Miss You?
The answer to this is that it depends…
A man who’s ’emotionally unavailable,’ which is not a clinical term, by the way, is unavailable for many different reasons.
As well, if by ’emotionally unavailable,’ we mean someone who doesn’t show emotion or talk about his emotions in the course of a relationship, then that could be because a man has been manipulated time and again whenever he spoke of a vulnerability.
Men will dismiss or coerce other men if they speak of feelings that are anything except happy or angry. This is common among men anyway.
Women do this to men too. In fact, many women put men down or humiliate them when they show signs of sadness, depression, or grief, often deeming them as ‘weak.’
When this type of interaction happens often enough, it can create a defense system in a man who shuts down emotionally. He essentially becomes monotone with his displays of emotion.
Now, will he miss a woman after a breakup if he’s emotionally unavailable?
If he struggles with being shut down and wants to share himself more, then the answer is yes.
If he uses his emotional unavailability as a weapon or heavy defense system in getting through life, then probably not. He will have justified his shut-down nature as necessary and will move on quickly.
Mostly because he never really became that attached to the woman he dated anyway. When a man has no desire to be emotionally ‘available,’ then no amount of convincing will bring him out of it.
Some men have this pattern of emotional unavailability so deep that they find displays of tears (from sadness or joy) laughable. Women need to pay attention to the nuance in a man’s physicality.
She must listen to his voice and keenly watch his face and body language to determine if he is shut down emotionally.
Most of all, women need to stop fooling themselves by listening only to what a man tells them and ignoring other signs (like body language) that are in contradiction to his words.
UPJOURNEY
Why Am I Attracted to Older Men?
It’s a matter of transference…
When I’ve heard female clients say how attracted they are to older men, it’s usually because they had a strong attachment to their father in a positive way. He made her feel safe and comforted as a girl. He was the protector she needed.
When we’re young, our minds are not discerning. The young are emotional and instinctual. As a girl goes through puberty, she’s often catapulted into the throes of hormonal chaos.
Her father may be the one male who gives her a sense of stability during this time.
If she is heterosexual, it feels natural to transfer feelings of affection toward feelings of attraction to an older man when she’s ready to date. The love and support of a father (or father figure) create a deep subconscious desire to recreate that feeling with a man when a girl becomes a woman. This can often happen with older men who give the woman the same feeling as her father did.
It May be Because of “Daddy Issues”
Sometimes little girls are sexually abused by their fathers, an older male relative, or a man in the neighborhood. When this happens, the psyche sometimes seeks to protect itself by inverting the damage done. Instead of loathing the man who took advantage of her, a little girl might blame herself.
Thank you for reading and have a very sensual day.
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