I know that often times when a man and a woman have been in a relationship for a long time, the sex can get kind of stale and even non-existent.
The good news is that as a man, you really CAN reset her sexual biology and get her sexually motivated again, by DOING certain things that trigger her natural feminine instincts. You’ll have her pawing you like she did when you first met.
All you have to do is recreate what I like to call the “Primal Polarities”m her. As the man, it’s your job to lead her in the kind of relationship YOU want.
Yes I said that. You lead her. You don’t force her. Each person has free will, so you can’t force her to behave in the way you’d like.
However, diving more deeply into your own manhood will require her to dive deeply into her own femininity. When that happens, you can lead her into the kind of sexual, intimate and passionate relationship you know you both want.
Here are the 3 Elements you want to conjure up to get her sexually motivated again:
Risk (and protection)
#1 RISK (& PROTECTION)
Protecting her from “danger” can heighten her interest in you.
She may say she’s not interested in your protection, but it’s the feeling of safety from you she craves.
In fact, it’s really the only way a woman can be independent. Is through the sense of protection and respect men feel toward women.
It’s the creepy guys that women stay away from, right?
So, you as the man, need to find ways in everyday life to make her feel safe and protected.
The trick is…
To discover the things she really wants and needs you to protect her from. These may or may not be what you think they are.
At one time, male and female gender roles were very clearly defined. Man was the hunter and woman was the gatherer.
That meant he went out, she stayed close to home.
All roles are open to women now, but I promise, there are some things a lady would much rather have her man take care of.
Now how do you KNOW what she wants you to protect her from.
Let’s say she doesn’t like anything to do with fixing cars. She doesn’t like doing things that get her hands dirty either.
So, since you know these things about her because you’ve either heard her say it or have observed then to be evident then you now KNOW fixing the tire is going to fall to you.
Or of course, you can just ask. Although a direct question will yield an answer that is probably not that truthful.
So, what’s left? Listen to what she complains about. That’s right, there is a silver lining to her bitchfests.
When she’s complaining about something she can’t or won’t get done, this is your cue and when you hear it you gotta follow through!
So start finding those moments of risk that she wants YOU to protect her from and watch her become sexually motivated again.
#2 Bring Back the Adventure
Women love to do new and wild things. If you don’t think so, then you really have not been paying attention to women.
Women really love adventure when it means their man is the one leading them into this new experience. It might be a slightly scary or nerve racking thing to do – this new adventure. Which will take her back to number one on this list. You can be protective of her by exposing her to risk and then keeping her safe.
She needs a shake up and doing something adventurous with her girlfriends is fun, but the element of romance is gone. Her girlfriends won’t be “protective” of her. They won’t be “leading” her. They’ll all be figuring it out together and taking care of each other if something goes wrong.
That can heighten the anxiety, but not the sense of adventure.
That’s where YOU come in.
When I say “adventure” it doesn’t have to be swinging from branches in the Amazon.
It can be as simple as learning something new. Perhaps a new language or instrument. Maybe you take a deep dive studying a part of history or start a new project.
Are there things you’ve always talked about trying but haven’t yet? Now is the time! Women like men who follow through, who go on a mission and achieve things. A good woman will be impressed with pretty much anything you do to better yourself. Find a way to include her in it too.
However, a word of caution. Now is not the time to try to be adventurous in the bedroom. She needs to be triggered into her feline nature first. To do that, she really needs to SEE you at your masculine best.
So instead of trying to get sexy with try to scare her a bit instead. Women love bad boys.
And wouldn’t you know, risk, danger, excitement and desire are all linked together by dopamine.
Why not try going to a carnivals and riding a roller coaster? How about going to a concert? Get involved in some type of activism. Attend a protest.
#3 Primal Polarities
Increase your polarity with her by going more deeply into your masculinity.
It’s a sad and frustrating phenomenon that the last half of the 20th century, American society has put a serious effort into making men and women the same. It’s our differences (in every way) that enhance attraction.
Polarity is the concept of opposites. I like to use the term “Primal Polarities” because I believe women are like wild animals in the primal core and men are explorers and adventurers in their essence.
Adventures are fascinated by wild animals. Wild animals will eventually respond to an explorer if he demonstrates the right amount of patience and offers food. Otherwise, they will just run away.
There are two ways to increase the polarity in your relationship;
Step into your own masculine power and encourage her to express her femininity more.
You can do that by having a structure to your life that includes her helping you accomplish it.
Now what this means is, you like to have things a certain way. You want her to provide those things.
Of course, she has her work and life schedule, so these things need to be the kinds of things she can accommodate.
Although, you’d be surprised what a woman will give up to make the man in her life happy. That’s not a cliche that’s biology!
Besides, you’ll be doing the risky things she doesn’t like to do and making her feel protected. This is HUGE incentive for her to reciprocate.
Another thing you can try to increase the Primal Polarity in your relationship is to become the bringer of gifts. Meaning – you as the masculine leader of this relationship – you are delivering adventurous, emotional and deep experiences to your lady. The kind of experiences she can’t get anywhere else.
One last point and I’ll leave it there. I’ve noticed that American society has really been pressing to have men worry and fuss about a lady’s emotions and thoughts. It’s nonsense!
First of all, men are not really built to worry about another person’s inner environment. They are goal and action oriented. They are outward looking.
It makes a man weaker to consistently fret about how his woman (or any woman) may be feeling and thinking.
However, that does’t mean a man must be a jerk. What you need to do is consider where she is coming from without getting caught up in it.
For example, let’s say she tells you about some creepy guy at work that looks at her in a weird way. It may not sound like anything to you, but if you’ve been around women for any length of time you’ll know that most women have a 6th sense about people. If you trust your woman not to be a flake or paranoid then this is something to take seriously.
How do you be more manly in this situation and lead the relationship? Perhaps you offer to meet her at work one day to pick her up.
Then make a display of being her man. This will go far in helping her feel safe and protected.
This will go a loooong way to getting her triggered to want to please you sexually. It’s how women are made. If you alleviate her fears and make her feel safe, she will want to please you sexually. It’s in our DNA.
Just a quick recap;
- Give her a little Risk (and protection)
- Create Adventure
- Increase the (primal) Polarities between you
These are simple – but not necessarily easy ways – of getting back the passion you first had in the relationship.
I hope this has given you value and that you use these tips to increase the level of affection and love you receive in your relationship.
Thank you for reading.
Have a sensual day, Dyann xoxo
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