If you’re new to the world of sensual massage then you may have a lot of questions. Even if you’re a seasoned client of FBSM independent providers you’ll probably still have many questions about the providers, services and industry in general.
When I write a post like this I always like to have an idea of what people are looking to know more about. I’m a CMT with over 20 years in most every aspect of the massage industry.
From chiropractor’s offices, day spas, private practice and yes, FBSM I’ve see a lot in this industry and have talked to other women in this field too.
Find some of my interviews with Independent FBSM providers here:
For every article I write for The Body House, I do research as to what people are actually looking to learn more about.
So, on my internet research travels, it was a REDDIT post that gave me the inspiration to write this.
It’s entitled in “The Difference Between FBSM Independent Providers and AMPs – my experience”
*AMP” = Asian massage parlour
So let’s jump in to what the man has to say about his experience and examine it.
Let’s start by what he says about himself;
- 45 years old
- male (presumably white)
- he talks about having regular AMP sessions
- he talks about this being only his 2nd independent FBSM provider experience
- this event happened in 2022
Now let’s hear what he has to say in the REDDIT post;
“The main difference between an independent providing FBSM and and AMP is that there’s no gameplay. Clothes come off at the door, pretty much, and the nudity gets real involved real fast. Lots of all the stuff you’d do with your partner if you’re foreplaying. Hugging, groping, ball and dick licking – just warming up. AMPs will kill a whole 30 minutes before they even see your front side. AMPs will also strictly negotiate (usually) exactly what you’ll be getting for how much. My independent started just giving me a BBBJ a few times during the session, among other things, which surprised me.”
Since this was his second session with an independent FBSM provider, I will say in general, yes, there is a partial or complete disrobing of the provider once the client is in the room.
Most FBSM providers will get down to lingerie or perhaps a sexy little outfit. Some may even get completely naked. Every woman is different.
I’m not sure what he means by “gameplay”.
An FBSM provider has advertised that she will give them a massage with the purpose of orgasm.
How the independent FBSM provider achieves this varies. The goal is the same.
With AMPs however, they are under enormous pressure to be careful. As a client of those establishments you will need to and in my opinion you should, negotiate.
She has to know you are a serious client and exactly what you want so she can inform you of what the charge is for the “extras”.
Some people actually go to an AMP to get a real massage.
So the providers at AMPs have instructions to be careful and HOW to negotiate.
They will usually be able to tell if the client is an undercover cop who is trying to entrap them. Of course, it doesn’t always work, but they do have to be cautious.
In my opinion, this man doesn’t understand the precautions an independent FBSM provider has to ensure to do the work she does – no matter where she works.
So what he calls “game playing” is a woman protecting herself.
He talks about how his independent FBSM provider began giving him fellatio as part of the service and then goes on to state that she was very aggressive sexually. Read part of it here;
“In my particular session, the one thing that got a little too close for comfort was the almost aggressive nuru-like sliding, with her wrapping her lower lips around my member and sliding back and forth on it. Penetration could have easily happened, as she did this for a good 3-4 minutes, but knew how to keep it on the outside. I could have easily come all over her opening, but saved it for later.”
BBBJ = Bare Back Blow Job = a blow job without a condom
In my opinion, this does seem like a lot too soon in the session. Although, every independent FBSM provider has their own boundaries.
Some will even provide a full service, escort-like experience with price negotiation.
What really seems to be over the top to me is this;
“I normally use condoms for any genital-to-genital contact, but I was lost in the moment, not knowing what other surprises were in store after the two BBBJ phases. Now I have some general anxiety about the contact, and will get tested this week to deal with all of that.”
So now, because she rubbed her vagina lips against his hard dick he has to “get tested” for an STD.
In my opinion, this is way over the top in terms of concern.
It’s the independent FBSM provider that needs to be very cautious about STDs which are usually very UNcommon.
I’ve talked to many, many providers and clients and not once did I hear anyone say they contracted an STD.
Although, I’ve heard people discuss their boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse who transmitted an STD.
Isn’t that interesting?
I would urge you gentlemen as clients, NOT to be too paranoid about independent FBSM providers.
THEY are taking a much, much bigger risk than you are. This is a fact.
You as the client, are a visitor who will drive off into the sunset in an hour. SHE has to deal with the logistics of the location, she has to have some type of screening system for the clients, she has to advertise and she needs to continue to use the location in the most discreet ways possible.
Women don’t think like men.
Understanding this and keeping it in mind when you search and contact independent FBSM providers will help the interaction with her go more smoothly.
If you want to read the entire REDDIT post from this man go here…
In general, I think his overall assessment is pretty accurate. This is what he says to sum up;
“Independent FBSM providers will generally provide much better quality massage, and will likely do everything (including BBBJ) but penetrative intercourse without haggling or discussing particulars. They also get right into the fun stuff without delay. But the lack of mystery takes away from what I enjoy about AMPs. Also, I now need to get tested for STIs because pp and v were aggressively massaging each other too.”
It’s true that many independent FBSM providers will offer a better massage since they have chosen the field and know that the massage is an important part of why clients come for the service.
In AMPs, it’s very hit or miss. Some AMP providers are very skilled. Others really are not and some could care less and just want it to be over with.
I will also give this man credit for doing his homework. He found this independent FBSM provider through established and better known erotic advertising platforms and checked out her website.
I recommend that you check out an independent FBSM providers website thoroughly and actually following the directions that she wants you to do.
There are very specific reasons WHY she is asking you to do these procedures.
It’s not for you to know what those reasons are or even why she wants it that way.
She has her business, her body and her energy to protect. Please respect her rules and you’ll probably have a much better experience than expected.
I hope this article has helped you understand the world of sensual massage better and some of the differences between FBSM Independent Providers and AMPs.
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