Picking Up The Slack – Men Calling Out Men
I feel for you guys. I do. This may still be a man’s world, but it’s tough to be a guy.
This world tends to favor men, especially white men (let’s be honest) and opens doors for you guys just because you’re you.
However, maybe it’s this deference to men that allows so many of you to feel entitled to things you want just for the asking…
Talking to my female friends, many have told me how they feel an overwhelming sense of ownership and entitlement many men have toward them.
Why? Is it because these women are married or in long term relationships with a man who is feeling a sense of possession over them?
In some cases this is true and to some extent it’s understandable.
However, that’s not where I’m going with this.
The women I’ve talked to say they’ve experienced this overwhelming sense of ownership and entitlement toward them by a man… while she was on the street, minding her own business. Yes, it’s that palpable and that common.
I myself (a woman of middle years) have experienced this and have also watched it happen.
I’ve seen men eye young attractive women on the street like predators.
Not unlike thieves scoping out a property to rob. Penetrating stares which expose their active lust.
It seemed the only thing holding these men back from actually pouncing or propositioning the young woman directly was a sense of social decorum… but just barely.
I want to make the point too, that these women presented themselves in a way which reflects our modern times. Their attire was definitely body conscientious while not overtly revealing.
They looked like any fashionable, self respecting young woman. Not, dare I say, like a “slut”.
We women are here to serve you guys… correct? Nah. Not so much.
Much of this has to do with residual Christian dogma regardless of the religion any of us grows up with.
Christianity has seeped into every crevice of our culture. Here and elsewhere. It also has to do with the energetic makeup of men in general.
However, the reasons why this sense of entitlement and ownership toward women exists is not the focus of this article. What needs to be done to change it is the focus.
That’s where you guys come in (check out another post on “self-assessment”).
Women are doing everything we can to take care of ourselves, protect ourselves and stand up for ourselves.
When a woman experiences some sort of comment or penetrating look on the street the best she can do is ignore it.
We have to do better. It’s exhausting for us (women) and counter productive for you (men).
This type of behavior happens too often and it’s completely unnecessary.
Remember this is the world that men built.
Remember too, that women are here to inspire, delight and offer support and partnership for you. We are not here to be in your service at all costs.
Your natural protective instincts and tendency to apprize, should alert you to the fact that women are not being treated with the respect we deserve.
You have the power to change that.
As a good man, you have an evolutionary, if not a moral, obligation to pick up the slack for your less conscientious brothers (Here’s a link to some evolved brothers).
Women are doing all they can to preserve their sense of femininity and self respect. It doesn’t always work and we’re tired of it.
If men want to interact with women who are confident and playful and not filled with hardness and defensiveness, then this is your evolutionary obligation. Screw morality.
That won’t get us very far. If you want our great American culture (and beyond) to continue to progress, take a stand for women today.
Your sense of manhood will grow by leaps and bounds if you do.
What does taking a stand for women look like exactly?
It’s like men calling other men out (especially in public) on their rude behavior toward women.
Whether that shows up as a sexual comment toward her or gossip or even some kind of gesture or physicality toward a woman.
Call him out. I dare you to. I implore you to.
Why not say something like, “Let it go, man. She’s not interested. And what’s more, she doesn’t have to be.”
Or “Is that any way to talk to a lady?” Then watch the look of shock ripple across his face.
Be prepared too… for a verbal exchange or even a physical altercation. Try not to escalate it though. Such is the way of men.
If you’re hitting enough nerves you’ll also experience a certain level of abandonment.
Just know… you have the power to create change in your fellow man’s consciousness for the betterment of all.
Thanking you in advance for the evolution of our culture.
Sensually yours, Dyann