Sexual Discovery: What The Heck Is Demisexuality?

Do you know what demisexuality is?

Yeah, neither did I. So, I Googled it.

It’s kind of surprising, but pretty simple and really nothing new. So, I thought I would share my “sexual discovery” here.

Essentially, demisexuality is a lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless they become deeply emotionally or romantically connected with that person.

The term [demi]sexual comes from the definition ‘halfway between’ sexual and asexual.***

There also seems to be a very important aspect when describing a demisexual.

Demisexuality is an actual orientation like heterosexuality or homosexuality.

Many people mistake a demisexual as choosing to forego sex with someone rather than understanding it’s an innate orientation.

Demisexuals are not choosing to abstain. They simply lack any sexual attraction until a close relationship is formed.

Apparently, the term demisexuality began popping up on the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN).***

I didn’t know there was such a thing as a network for the visibility and education about asexuality and asexuals.

Hmmmm.

Another interesting fact that AVEN posts on their wiki is about romantic attraction.

Romantic attraction is different than sexual attraction.

Romantic attraction is an emotional response to someone when they do not feel sexually attracted.

Kind of like puppy love I guess.

Both demisexuals and asexuals*** can feel romantic attraction.

In case you’re interested… Here are links to resources I found on the topic of being demisexual:

http://demisexuality.org/

http://demisexuality.com/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=demisexual

http://wiki.asexuality.org/Demisexual?title=Demisexual

***Definition of Asexuality: Asexuality is akin to non-sexuality. That’s according to Wikipedia. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to any gender or anyone. That or a lack of interest in sexual activity in general.

Interesting TidBit: Wikipedia sites a 2004 study that puts the proclivity toward asexuality in Britain at 1%. Hmm.