Stop Hoping Your Lady Will Get Easier In Your Relationship

In general, women are much more emotional than men. Women tend to be tapped into the unseen realm of life. Our serenity is challenged by our own bodies and energy fields every day.

So it often seems, that a woman is in a man’s life to test his capacity to remain centered and unperturbed.

She tests him to feel his freedom and depth of love, to know that he is trustable.

She tests him for many reasons, but these tests are not conscious.

Her tests come in many forms such as;

complaining
nagging
being stubborn
challenging him
changing her mind
doubting him
distracting him
even undermining his purpose in a subtle or not so subtle way

It’s important for you as a man to understand that your lady’s testing is (mostly) never going to end.

It’s important you understand that hoping that life with your lady will get easier is (probably) not going to happen.

I say this because you have to have a very firm grip on the leadership role and stay steady as granite when she starts to get emotional or difficult to deal with.

When she realizes you’re not going to be rocked her emotional pendulum swings will (more than likely) die way down.

Ultimately, your lady wants to feel your authority, strength, love, integrity, acceptance and non-judgment.

As a man, you can see your life as a series of tests and celebrations. This hold true with your woman, only doubly so.

The most erotic moment for a woman is the feeling that you are her Supreme Commander.

There is not another time when she wants you more than when you embody the Divine masculine: imperturbable, totally loving, fully present, and all-pervading. Yum!

She cannot move you, because you already are what you are, with or without her.

She cannot scare you away, because you already penetrate her in fearless love. You pervade her heart and body.

She cannot distract you, because your one-pointed commitment to truth will not bend to her wiles.

Feeling this hugeness of love and freedom in you, means she can trust you, completely.

This is really the only way she will accept the surrender of her position with you, drop the testing and engage with you in celebration of love.

It’s a tall order to be this free.

Perhaps in more mediocre moments you will wish your lady would settle for less.

A good woman, a strong woman, won’t tolerate your childish needs for a pat on the head, your superficial desires for collecting bigger toys, or for your need to have her fawn over you.

A good woman will love the childlike part of you, but wants your life to be guided by your core desires and deep self-authority. She wants to feel your self-generated strength of truth.

However, a good woman will at some point STOP TESTING you. She has enough control over herself and enough respect for you that she’ll get to a point where she won’t test you any more.

If you remain full of humor, strong, happy, and unmoved in your truth by her testing, then you pass the test.

She can really only relax and trust you if you don’t care about what she thinks of what you’re doing. That way you can really lead the relationship. Just like a boss who worries too much about what his employees think about him, so it is with you as her man.

You don’t need her validation in order for you to be loving. You simply are a loving man. You’re show her respect because you want to.

You’ve got to become the kind of man whose heart remains open and whose truth remains strong even when his woman criticizes him. This is the kind of man your woman can trust.

Rise to the occasion gentlemen. You lady is in waiting… for YOU.